ADHD

HE WILL SHEILD YOU WITH HIS WINGS. THEY WILL SHELTER YOU Psalm 32:8

Ms. Kim

I am 10 and i have ADHD, everyone knows and calls me dummy, or stupid. I take medicine which helps but makes me so sleepy i fall asleep in class. My dad says i should just ignor others calling me names them. I do have a friend and she takes medicine like i do. We play and i like her she is nice to me. My dad said i will always be like this but i dont like it. Taking medicin all the time is hard. Please write tell me how many children have ADHD? Alot or a little? 

Love 

Charles

My dear friend Charles, 

Thank you for telling me about what's going on with you. I understand. It sounds like everyone knows about your situation and are calling youu names that hurt. Thats really hard, falling asleep in class is easy to do if your medications make you sleepy, i wouldnt like that either.  i have known children who grow out of ADHD, when they get a little older. You most likely will not have to take medicie all your life unless you want to.

Charlie's other children have ADHD and handle it in many different ways. Some have said they like going to different events or having hobbies where other children have the same issues and you can run around, at these event teachers and parent help you by accepting you just the way your are. Also your mom can talk to your teacher and work out a plan for you during the day.that might help. If its hard to sit still in school, it helps to have a hand toy when you feel like you want to run, ADHD can make it hard to consintrate and get good grades even though you try because you are distracted, you notice everthing at the same time, some children have tutors to help with school work you will learn to do school work in the way that's best for you, mostof the  time one on one.

Think about keeping your information to your self it is good this is your own private information talk to your parents about how to tell a friend, make sure they are trust worthy   What do you think about that? I am your friend and I Know other people who have ADHD as well. I have friends who have this too they do not call it ADHD anymore they call it a Divergent Mind, which simply means "you focus on many things at the same time", thats why its hard to listen to everything some one tells you. I think that's a better name. I liked getting your letter, it was good to know what your thinking. Thank you for sharing that with me.

Love 

Ms. Kim

UNDERSTANDING CHILDREN, YOU CAN HAVE A GREAT KID

We all have a vision of the child we want our child to be. Undertanding children is like putting a puzzel together with thousands of peices of a beautiful blue sky many differneces in shading shape and size. The solution lies in looking closely at details and applying love and informed determination and direction seeing the unique person they truly are. Not blaming them for who you want them to be. Thats maturity.

CHILDREN ARE CREATED IN COMPLEX WAYS

Children are created in complex ways consistant of many pieces connected  to make a whole. There  is the detailed pieces of child development. reasons why kids laugh, cry, work hard or seem lazy, enjoy good relationships or remain distant and shy, children must be seen for how they are, who they are, not judging but helping to develop and grow, geens and heredity play a part in this developement. You learning a with informed thought and care for their well-being. influences from Genes and heredity and genes play a part in the multi-dynamic lives of children. 

WE AL LIVE OUT OF OUR OWN LIVES EXSPERIENCES   

Knowledge, and understanding of that which we know, how were you raise? How i was raised worked for me, im just fine! Are we really, what do we have to compare it too, others around us where the mask they present to us, and if we want to conform to them it is a much shallow life. We all live from three basic levels, 1, our social self, 2. our intimate self, and 3. our secret self, a place we trust no one, a place we hide our self with its hurts, desirers and dreams, we all parent from a combination of the three, rom which do you live? As parents, it helps us to take a deeper look at our selves the good bad and the ugly to become aware of who you are inside. which person is parenting your children. Well all are but which one has the fullest understanding and depth of themselves? all parents make mistakes but there are many that we can change, evaluate your self. why do you parent the way you do, only you will know.  

1. investigate the link between genes and temperment Most folks now that genes strongly influence physical charactoristics,but you may not know that genes alsso help determin peoples temperments. Temperments refer to general patterns of emotional and behaviorl responses can be detected in infancy and sometimes continue into adult hood.

2. Enphicising exsperience From the min. babies are born they are learning takiing in sight smells, touch and exploration, their enviornment effects who they are, tense, soft, scure, anxious, or at peace. what does your person project to them, are you peaceful, happy or temermental, depressed or anxious your self. all of who we are can be pasted on through our relation ship with our child. Typically happy moms make happy kids. 

3. Education, have you eqipped your self, do you have a diagnosis or are you guessing? are you doing the right thing or the opposite of what your child needs? there is only one way to find out, read up, get a diagnosie, once that isloosley  determined  you can move in the right direcction. ( I do not like the acronim ADHD, i alwas recommend as parents you keep that to your self, parents and there children can be so cruel. You never want your child labled. There are ways of getting around that until they are older.with the right understand

4. Recogising the exsperiences of care givers parents and care givers provide important impact on childrens enviornments, what type of situations do you find your child in. what is the temperment of the care giver, what is the tone of the home, do they understand your childs special needs, are they on track with you and follow the things you ask them to do?

5. all of us love our children and we do the best we can, if having behavioral issues in the home its best in your interest to know the facts so you know your headed in the right diferction, there is no need for painful because of lack of knowledge.

Although theire is a new name for ADHD "Divergent Mindin" im sure it will take a while to catch on.eaning